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Attention Men: Don’t let Dating Scams Destroy your Retirement Plans

Written By R. A. Stewart

Millions of dollars are lost to romance scams every year and the target of these scams are older men. This is understandable, because retired men are likely to have built their assets up by the time they reach a certain age.

If you are at that age when you are making yourself available for dating, just be careful because not everyone who joins a dating site is looking for romance, some are scammers who are searching for potential victims.

If you are contacted by a lady who says she is looking for a marriage-minded man then there are some telltale signs which will indicate that she is not who she says she is and rather than finding a place in your heart she has her eye on your bank account.

Here are the main indicators of a scammer:

She is about 30+ years younger than you and claims that age difference does not matter.
She claims she is from a European country and is working in Africa as a nurse or school teacher.
She claims that she is Christian but the contents of her letter/email do not line up with Christian values.
She does not dress modestly (that is putting it mildly)
She asks you for money.

The fifth one is a sure sign that you are dealing with a scammer.

Once she has gained your trust she will then make up excuses for why she needs the money.

This unfortunate lady will create circumstances why she needs the money, here are some:

My late father has died and I have no money to bury him.

My child is sick and I need money for medical expenses.

I need money for the plane ticket to meet you, etc, etc, etc.

Be aware of anyone who tries to make you feel guilty in order to get you to send them money.

If she says, “If you don’t send me money, my child will die.”

What human being wouldn’t want to help someone in this unfortunate situation?

Most people will feel guilty if they do not do as the lady suggests.

She is using what is known as, “Manipulation by guilt.” It is when someone tries to get you to do something by making you feel guilty.

There is one message for all men: “Don’t give in to any kind of emotional blackmail.”

As far as dating websites are concerned, there is no shortage of options. It is important to choose a site which is based in your own country or at least a country which has laws that protect consumers.

Don’t sign up to any site which asks you to pay to send messages. What you will be doing is communicating with women who are being paid by the site owner to correspond with men.

Losing money to fraud is both emotionally and financially damaging for victims, even more so when someone you thought you could trust is the scammer. Heartless criminals are taking advantage of people looking for a life.

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Banking fraud is a major problem in the age of technology and there are some very sad stories of people being scammed out of their life savings. This is one of these stories and this could happen to your elderly relative. At the bottom of this article I have included some steps to take in order to protect yourself against banking scams.

Retiree scammed out of $100,000

A New Zealand bank refused to reimburse a New Zealand retiree after cyber criminals gained access to his account and transferred $100,000 from his accounts to an overseas account.

The 71 year old victim believes the scammers hacked into his banking app.

He claims the bank should take responsibility for his loss.

Three unauthorized transactions were made from the pensioner’s account; the first of 49k and two others of $11k and 38k and while the bank was able to stop the $11k and $38k transactions it was unable to prevent the $49k withdrawal which occurred the day before the other two.

Some of the money was set aside as an inheritance for his grandnieces. It is likely they will now miss out on their inheritance.

The bank’s customer who has been with this particular bank for years described the bank’s position on this situation as harsh.

Police had investigated this matter but believed it was between the bank and their customer to deal with.

The bank had communications with the beneficiary bank in regards to the stolen money and say if they are unsuccessful in recovering the funds then they will not reimburse their customer for the loss.

There was no evidence to suggest that the bank’s own security system was breached and this was made known to the customer. It tends to suggest that somehow the customer’s to blame for this scam. However, he maintains that he did not share his internet banking login or password with anyone or divulged his personal banking details in response to an unsolicited email.

Unfortunately what happened to this pensioner is not an isolated incident.

Another pensioner was scammed out of $134,000 and his bank refused to reimburse him after they claimed that he did not take adequate precautions.

Precautions against banking fraud

Here are some basic precautions to take to protect yourself against banking fraud:

1 Do not put all of your eggs in the one basket

The pensioner in this story should not have just left all of his money in the one bank account. He should have opened an account with a separate bank and NOT linked it to internet banking and invested his grand neice’s inheritance in this account.

2 Do not click on links

Do not click on any links on any email you receive even if you believe it is from your bank because it may be from an internet scammer instead. It is safer to type in the URL address instead and just type in the URL address and log in.

3 Do not link your debit card to your personal savings account. Someone I know had $3,000 NZ go missing from his account when the website that had his banking details was hacked. Fortunately the bank reimbursed him the amount.

4 The other precautions are basic common sense ones such as not sharing passwords and changing passwords occasionally.

5 When signing up to a dating or other sites it will pay to use an email address which is different from the one which you do your banking.