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7 New Year’s Resolutions which are Destined to Fail

  1. Lose weight

A New Year’s resolution to lose weight is destined to fail because it is vague and not specific. It does not say how you plan to lose weight and how much weight you are going to lose. A better goal will be “I am going to Give up going to fast food outlets” or “I am going to join the local running club.” If you are going to give something up then it may be an idea to have some alternative healthy options in mind. Focus on living an active and healthy lifestyle and the weight issue should take care of itself.

  1. Save Money

A New Year’s resolution to “save money” is just as vague as a goal to lose weight. There is no power to it. If you are just frittering away your discretionary spending money and have little or nothing to show from your labours then something has to change in order for your finances to change. You are better advised to decide on what you are saving for and take the steps needed to get there. Joining kiwisaver if you are not already enrolled has to be your number one priority. There are share market platforms such as Sharesies, Hatch, and Kernel Wealth which are set up to enable ordinary people to invest in the share market.

  1. Get Fit

A New Year’s resolution to “Get Fit,” is another one which is destined to fail because it is too vague and not specific enough. How you are going to get fit is not answered in a “Get Fit” resolution. If you have a “Get fit” resolution then what happens is that after a couple of days of running around the block or a few games of backyard cricket old habits will take over and your New Year’s resolution will become a distant memory.

  1. Learn to Swim

“Learn to swim” as a New Year’s resolution is not specific enough. It would be better to have a goal of, “To take lessons at the local pool once a week,” or to resolve to practice one new swimming skill every week. It is consistency which drives results. 

  1. Learn to Drive

Another example of a vague goal. It is better to have a New Year’s resolution of “I intend to sign up for driving lessons on New Year’s Day or whenever the Driving School is open for business after the holiday break.

  1. Get a Job

Deciding to “Get a Job” as your New Year’s resolution means that just taking any job which comes along will fulfil your goal. If that is what you want; that is fine but if you have something specific in mind then specify it otherwise you will end up with nothing. It is worth keeping in mind that many people will work at something they do not like until something more suitable comes along.

  1. Learn a new Language

This is another example of a goal which is not specific enough. There are dozens of languages you could learn so which one are you going to tackle? It will be better if you set a goal of “I will learn one new French/Chinese/Italian or whatever word per day. Such a goal is specific and tells you what you need to do in order to achieve your goal.

 

Your New Year’s resolution needs to be specific and have an action in it otherwise it will be just a wish. It is your desire which will enable your New Year’s resolutions to become the permanent change you are seeking. Just take one day at a time and see what happens.

www.robertastewart.com

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WEIGHT LOSS ADVICE

Introduction

The weight loss industry is worth an enormous amount of money with women being the target of advertisers. It is important for those intending to go on a diet to question their motives and ask themselves, “Am I doing it for myself or am I being fat-shamed into doing it?” It is important to just be happy being you before you consider changing anything in your life because unless you are content there will always be something that you need in order to be happy.

Just be yourself

The human race is like licorice all sorts, you never know what you are going to get. There are as many personalities as there are people and there are a variety of shapes and sizes. It is therefore to accept who you are but at the same time change what you can change.

You may have no control over your build but you can choose what you put in your mouth. You may have no control of what talents you have been given but you have control over what you do with what you have been given.

The world puts unrealistic expectations on people and especially young women. They are expected to look as glamorous as those who appear in the glossy women’s magazines. Is it any wonder that so many women suffer from low self esteem?

If women think that they have too much pressure on them to look as fabulous as a Hollywood star, many of them expect men to have the perfect physical body. Let me tell you my story:

I have always been skinny; all through my life I meet women from time to time who say “You’re too skinny,” and so on. Once a young lady was telling me about her boyfriend and how he looks after himself. He had a good physical body. She was having a dig at me. At the time I was jogging six miles+ per day and was competing in athletics every weekend. Sometimes on both Saturday and Sunday.

As with all of the comments that have been made about me being skinny I have never taken offence nor suffered from an inferiority complex or low self esteem because of it. My shape has never bothered me. I have just accepted it as who I am.

But…

I can understand why women would have their self-esteem attached to their weight when there is so much pressure on them to have a nice figure, but what they are really doing is living to please others rather than accepting who they really are.

It is important to accept who you are and not let your body shape determine your self worth.

You shouldn’t allow comments by others to determine your self worth either. If others cannot accept who you are then that is their problem not yours. 

The bottom line is that you can only live your life according to your own circumstances and not compare yourself with others because it will be similar to comparing apples to pears.

Your value is not determined by what others say about you. It is not determined by your dress size, or by your achievements. You may see the achievements of high profile sports people being applauded on TV but this will all pass. There are thousands of unsung heroes whom society takes for granted but they do their work day after day without complaint and without even a modest round of applause.

My suggestion is to focus on a “healthy eating” mindset rather than a “lose weight.”

It is far easier to achieve a goal based on what you eat and how much you eat rather than it is to lose weight. 

Like all things in life worth striving for, losing weight takes effort and sacrifice and only you can decide whether the outcome was worth it all.

ABOUT THIS ARTICLE

Robert Stewart has a site www.loseweightnz.weebly.com with information about the keto diet. Feel free to share this article, post it on your blog, use it as content for your ebook, or to do anything you wish with this article without any restrictions.