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Elder Abuse: what it is

Elder Abuse: what it is

Written by R. A. Stewart

Elder Abuse may be a term you may not have heard of. It is a term that is being used more frequently than in the past so what does it mean?

It is when someone who is of the older generation is being taken advantage of. The abuse may not need to be of a financial nature. As with all kinds of abuse it could come in a number of forms; financial abuse

Not repaying loans

Unauthorised taking of money or other assets

Scams that rely on developing a relationship with the older person with the intention of taking their money and assets. Dating scams is an example of this.

Use of home without contributing to the costs.

Psychological abuse

This comes in many forms and could be threats, intimidation, and hostility.

Control

This can be making decisions on the behalf of the elder person or taking authority over their everyday life.

Isolation

Lack of affection

Ridicule, humiliation, and general put downs.

Physical

Intimidation

Threats of violence

Neglect

This could be neglecting the physical and emotional needs of the person.

Abandonment

This could be someone who is responsible for the care of an older person not fulfilling their obligations.

Many victims of Elder Abuse do not speak about what is happening because they are dependent on others for support. Low self-esteem is another reason why incidents are not reported by victims of elder abuse.

Elder Abuse victims are not necessarily in their eighties or nineties; they could just as easily be in their fifties or sixties and being young does not necessarily mean that you are immune to Elder Abuse. It is not recognised as such in the younger generation.

Those who like to control others will employ the same strategies irrespective of the age of their victims. They will:

  1. Use pets to control others.

Many people in bad relationships stay in the relationships for fear of something happening to their pets. They feel as though they are held hostage and are unable to escape from their situation.

  1. Intimidate their victims

Control Freaks use intimidation as a tool to gain power over others and as a result it leaves victims very down trodden and with a low self-esteem.

  1. Isolate others

Controlling people will isolate others from the outside world leaving them with no means of communication with others. 

  1. Financially controls

Controlling people will keep those that they control financially dependent on them and this makes it hard for victims to leave the situation. 

There are organisations available to help those who are victims of elder abuse. It is just a matter of finding the courage to pick up the phone or to tell someone.

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Pros and Cons of Mature Dating

The Pros and Cons of forming a new relationship late in life

Written by R. A. Stewart

A guy in a backpacking hostel asked me if I was married, and I said, “I don’t see the point at my age”. He said, “Some people get married in their nineties.”. 

I told him, “I just don’t see the point in that”.

Honestly, why would one ever consider it at that stage of life?

I have heard it said, “Everyone deserves happiness in their life”.

That seems to suggest that the couple were unhappy being single and if that is the case then they have a problem.

There is a saying, “love is blind,” and that is an apt summary of these late in life marriages because there are financial implications for these relationships. The main one being property ownership because each partner in the relationship is now entitled to half of all assets owned by them both. That may be fair enough but that inheritance which was intended for children or grandchildren may not be legally binding. As I understand it, when a couple enters into a new relationship, (marriage) then it means their previous will is now null and void and that they have to write a new one.

It is likely that when one of the partner’s passes on then the relatives of the remaining partner will get everything.

That means nothing for the family of the deceased.

Now, this may sound morbid or selfish when one speaks about money and relationships, but all of this has to be thought through. 

It is rather naive to think that there are no gold diggers out there who are willing to take vulnerable men to the cleaners, and these women will hang out on the same dating websites as their prey.

As for who gets what when someone passes; here is the order of priority.

  1. The spouse or partner 
  2. Children of the deceased
  3. Parents of the deceased
  4. Siblings of the deceased

Note: In New Zealand, if a couple have been living together in a de facto relationship for at least three years then everything they own is considered matrimonial property. 

This includes Kiwisaver, New Zealand’s retirement scheme, but only those contributions made during the term of the relationship.

It is no secret that there are men of an older generation who have been the victims of dating scams. The number one red flag in these scams is that a woman half your age contacts you out of the blue.

The number two red flag is that she wants to hasten the relationship, and the number three red flag is that she sends you some revealing photographs of herself. 

If someone can tap into your ego, and make you feel good about yourself they are on their way to taking advantage of you. 

Another method scammers will use is to manipulate your emotions. She will come up with a hard luck story and tell you that she needs money or this or that will happen. This strategy is called “manipulation by guilt.”

It is when someone tries to get you to do something by making you feel guilty.

You would think that men in their later years have acquired enough experience of human character, but then, you know what they say, “Love is blind!”

A lot of romance scam victims are too embarrassed to come forward and go to their bank or the police, but if you know someone in this situation, let them know that it has happened to a lot of others too.It is also important to know what your grandparents are doing behind a computer screen because it could mean that your inheritance is being sent to some stranger in a far flung part of the globe. 

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Giving your money a job to do

Written by R. A. Stewart

It is one thing to earn money, it is another thing altogether to ask your money to do likewise. Most people know how to earn money from whatever job or career they have but fewer people know how to invest their money in order for their money to work for them. 

It is not just a matter of investing in this or that and expecting your wealth to increase, there are factors which must be considered and this will determine where you should invest your money.

It all boils down to your timeline. If you are investing for the long term, that is 10 years or more then growth funds may be your best option. The reason for this is that if there is a major market downturn then there is more time to recover from such a setback. If it is the short term you are investing for then you need to be more conservative otherwise, you may find that a major market plunge may reduce your savings just when you need the money.

Your investing strategy is dependent on your priorities and everyone’s priorities are different, therefore, don’t be talked into investing in something by well meaning friends who may not be on the same page as you are as far as investing for the future goes.

Saving and investing are good habits to develop and the earlier you start the better off you will be, not just in terms of increasing your wealth but also increasing your financial literacy. There is no substitute for experience and this can only be acquired by getting involved in the markets.

Fortunately, in this day and age, investing in the share market has been made easier for the man and woman in the street with all of these online investing platforms such as sharesies in New Zealand and Australia and Hatch in the US. There are a lot of others such as robin hood in the US.

A person who has their head screwed on the right way will have established clear financial goals and a job for their money. Here are some of the money goals which are quite common:

An emergency (rainy day fund)

Saving for a car fund

Saving for a house deposit fund

Saving for your retirement fund

Saving for an overseas holiday fund

Saving for an investment portfolio fund

On that last one. If you are building an investment portfolio .you are able to drip feed money into an investment rather than saving until you have say, a grand, before investing a lump sum into an account.

The advantage of investing a little bit into the markets regularly, whether that is every week or two weeks is that you will purchase shares or units at a lower price when the markets are down.

This is all some food for thought for those just starting out on their investment journey.

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Book Review-Your Money, Your Future

Written by R. A. Stewart

There are a number of books on personal finance on the market and one of these is “Your Money, Your Future by New Zealand financial advisor Frances Cook. In this book Frances provides practical advice and tips on managing your finances and how to formulate a strategy for achieving financial independence. There is no size fits all when it comes to designing a life and Frances makes allowances for that. Here are some interesting points from the book which I want to share in this article.

  1. To calculate what percentage of your money should be invested in shares, deduct your age from 100. For example; if your age is 65 then 35% of your money should be in shares. I think that the majority of investors probably have a higher percentage of their money in shares than this formula suggests. It is really a case of your timeline as far as when you are going to use the money.
  2. Putting your money into a savings account may feel safe to some people but over a period of time that money is losing it’s value because of inflation. Your money has to outpace inflation and it won’t do that in a savings account. Only your emergency cash fund should be kept in a savings account and money used for utilities and everyday living costs.
  3. The rule of 72 explains how quickly you can double your money. It goes like this; simply divide 72 by the average rate of return on any investment. If the average return is 7% then it will take you 10 years to double your money (72 divide by 7).

This is the magic of compounding interest. This is all assuming that you do not take your profits but rather allow them to be added to the principal so that you are earning interest on interest.

  1. You cannot beat the market so buy the whole thing! Frances talks about diversification here and explains how this approach beats trying to time the market every time. There is a saying, “Its time and not timing which is the key to making money on the share market.”
  2. Retire to something not from something. Frances points out that life needs to have a purpose otherwise it will be meaningless. You have to have an end goal in sight for when you finish work. Your retirement plan does not have to involve spending, it could be spending more time with the family or gardening.

You may be able to find the book, “Your Money, Your Future” by Frances Cook on Ebay or Amazon if you live outside of New Zealand. In New Zealand, the Trademe auction site may have copies.

I have read a lot of books on investing and this one is one of the best. It contains several gems of advice relating to personal finance. Whatever your personal circumstances are, you will find this book helpful in pointing you in the right direction.

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